True Family - "My problems are your problems until we get them solved."

My oldest (16 year old daughter) who was facing so many decisions for school started crying one morning after I had mentioned to her that she needed to get with her counselor about some subjects she needed to get into for the fall. I did not understand what was going on so I pulled the car over and tried to get her to tell me what was going on that made her so upset.

After a little while, she finally said to me, that it was school. That she had to make so many decisions that she felt so much pressure on what to do. It just seemed so hard, and she felt that she needed to decide on everything right away and did not know what to do and she did not know how to find the money to go to college and it was all getting to be a little too much.

I began to feel her pain and began to comfort her. I explained to her what a "True Family" is and I gave this message of love from my heart to hers and I want to share it with you - just in case it ever happens to you and your child. Maybe this will help comfort him/her.

First thing I shared with her is that when she has problems - we (myself, her Dad and Sister) all have the problem too. That in our family, when one of us has problems we all have them because it effects us all in some way. So we sit down, talk it out, and try to figure them out together. We seek God's will in them and we pray about them. We focus on strengthening our faith and we seek God's grace and wisdom. We spend more time with God for his direction and answer - until the answer arrives or a miracle is born.

I told her that true families stick together, pray together and make decisions together. Basically, because what ever problem you have it will effect the rest of the family in some way. But, we must continue to live right, keep God first, maintain our faith and keep our trust in God to do what he says, and if we fall, we get on our knees and seek his forgiveness, repent and continue on. Because the righteous will be not be overlooked or forgottened, we will be rewared for our hard work and sacrifice with - miracles.

Miracles are for the righteous who constantly hard work and remain dedication to God in love. God sees what we do and he rewards accordingly. Something "man" can not ever provide and what scientist can not justify. Miracles just happen and they can not be explained, and no one knows just how it got there, but, its perfect for the situation at hand. Because God made it and God gave it to satisfy that specific purpose.

I went on to explain to my daughter that she need not worry. We will, with God's help, find a way, but for now, we will continue to advise and guide her until she was ready, and confident on taking over her life's decisions and Father God will provide and do the rest.

I wanted to share this with anyone who has a family. We should all be as one. Loving each other and helping each. Sharing with our brothers, sisters, in Christ, our life's experiences, our knowledge, our resources. This was God's plan for us to love one another as we do ourselves. Let us start at home, with our families. Let us remind our children that they are not alone, we are with them in all that they do and when we guide them and advise them it is from the love in our hearts that God has placed there. Let us explain to them that we want to help prepare them for the days ahead and the roads and cross roads that they will face later on in life - that we have already been down. So they will not waste their time on those roads or be tempted to go in those "dead end" directions.

The Lord says to share with your children - everyone - your trials and tribulations - and tell them just how he brought us through. He said be reminded of them and the victories given unto us and do not forget them.  To testify to everyone, our sisters, brothers, nieces, nephews, friends, neighbors, even strangers of how he brought us through.  I reflect on this when I am going through something or faced with a challenge.  I remember that God has never forgotten me and he hears my prayers to him.  For in my dark hours, in my sinful shame, I was set free, for sharing the truth and the way that was given unto to me by a way of a miracle that changed my life forever.

I hope that I am contagious in my efforts and it carries on with you and yours. Much peace and love to you and your family and may God continue to bless and keep you protected - always. In Jesus Holy name. Amen...